When Does a Date Become a Crime?
Did you know that according to the National Victim Center Statistics:
22% of all rape victims are between the ages of 18 – 24.
27.7% of college women reported a sexual experience that met the legal definition of rape or attempted rape, and 7.7% of college men reported perpetrating aggressive behavior which met the legal definition of rape.
26% of rapes against women are by their intimate partners.
Risk factors for perpetrating sexual violence include: early sexual experience (both forced and voluntary); adherence by men to sex role stereotyping; negative attitudes of men towards women; alcohol consumption; and acceptance of rape myths by men
The adult pregnancy rate associated with rape is estimated to be 4.7%. This information suggests that there may be 32,101 annual rape-related pregnancies among American women over the age of 18.
Non-genital physical injuries occur in approximately 40% of completed rape cases. As many as 3% of all rape cases have non-genital injuries requiring overnight hospitalization.
Victims of rape often manifest long-term symptoms of chronic headaches, fatigue, sleep disturbance, recurrent nausea, decreased appetite, eating disorders, menstrual pain, sexual dysfunction, and suicide attempts. Sexual assault has been found to increase the odds of substance abuse by a factor of 2.5.
Estimates of the occurrence of sexually transmitted diseases resulting from rape range from 3.6% to 30%. HIV transmission risk rate from rape is estimated at 1 in 500.
Victims of marital or date rape are 11 times more likely to be clinically depressed, and 6 times more likely to experience social phobia than are non-victims. Psychological problems are still evident in cases as long as 15 years after the assault.
Nearly half of the sexual assaults reported to the police by women of all ages were committed by friends or acquaintances. From 80% to 95% of the rapes that occur on college campuses are committed by someone known to the victim.
American women are forcibly raped on the average of 1.3 rapes each minute; 78 each hour; 1,871 each day; 56,916 each month; and 683,000 each year. When the number of female children and males assaulted during that same period are added, it is likely that well over twice that many Americans were sexually assaulted.
Is DATE RAPE a Problem?
Whether you are male or female, date or acquaintance rape is a problem for all of society. It effects everyone! You may think that this is not a problem that affects you personally, but the reality is that one out of three women have been sexually assaulted, have been the victim of an attempted sexual assault, have been or will be sexually harassed in their lifetime. One-quarter of college age women have experienced a rape or an attempted rape. National statistics show that one out of seven boys have been sexually abused before age 18. These astounding statistics account for 80% of these victims being sexually assaulted by someone they know.
Setting Limits & Boundaries
Do you have limits or boundaries for yourself and your personal space where sexual activity is concerned? If not, the following information may assist you in setting limits and boundaries for yourself:
Think about whether you really want to have sex with someone who doesn’t want to have sex with you. How will you feel afterwards if your date tells you they didn’t want to have sex?
If you are getting a double message from your date, speak up and ask what they want. If you find yourself in a situation with a person who is unsure about whether they want to have sex or they are saying “NO”, stop and think about what’s happening. Talk about the situation.
Be sensitive to anyone who is unsure whether they want to have sex. If you pressure them, you might be “forcing” them, which could result in a criminal act according to the legal statutes.
Do not assume you both want the same degree of intimacy. There are several kinds of non-sexual activity you might mutually agree to share.
Stay in touch with your sexual desires honestly. Ask yourself if you are really hearing what the other person wants. Do not let your desires control your actions.
Communicate your sexual desires honestly and as early as possible.
Do not assume the other person’s desire for affection is the same as a desire for sex.
A person who turns you down for sex is not rejecting you as a person. They are expressing their right not to participate in a single act at that particular time.
No one asks to be raped. Regardless of how a person behaves or dresses, they do not deserve to have their body used in ways they do not want.
The fact that you are intoxicated is not a legal defense to rape. You are responsible for your actions, whether you are drunk or sober, if you are forcing someone to engage in sexual activity against their will and without their consent.
If you have a sexual activity with someone who is incapable of giving consent because they are unconscious or unable to resist due to drugs or alcohol, you are committing a sexual assault.
Be aware that a person’s physical appearance can be intimidating to a date. Many victims report that the fear they felt based on the offender’s physical size and presence was the reason they could not fight back or resist.
Even if someone decides not to fight back and complies with the demands of a rapist…
IT IS STILL A SEXUAL ASSAULT!