Protecting Our Children

Protecting Our Children


Child molesters come from all socioeconomic classes. Many are respected citizens in their community.

According to most studies, offenders start molesting children before they are 30 years old; therefore, it is not just the “dirty old man” that your child should be cautious of.

Most experts agree that boys and girls have an equal chance of being sexually abused, although some children are more likely to become victims than others. A child who is easily controlled by adults is an easy target.

Most molesters are known and trusted by their victims and use threats or rewards,not violence, to manipulate children into cooperating.

There is no simple reason to explain why some adults sexually abuse children. Through studies of known molesters, researchers have uncovered some characteristics common to many offenders.

According to a study done by Dr. Nicholas Groth, at least 80% of sexual offenders were sexually abused or exposed to sexual abuse of other family members when they were children.

It is rare that a molester will stop after one victim or one incident. Many molesters are responsible for abusing large numbers of children. Some studies show averages between 50 and 100 victims per offender.

Many sexual offenders were under the influence of alcohol/drugs at the time the offense was committed. Very few offenders (less than 5%) are diagnosed as being mentally challenged or psychotic.

Many child abusers have trouble dealing with other adults. Some offenders have never had a “normal” male/female relationship, even though they may be married.

If a child tells you that he/she had been molested, believe him/her. A child rarely lies about being molested.

If a child tells you that he/she has been molested, control your temper. Reassure the child that you are not angry at him/her. They are probably already dealing with guilt feelings, especially if the offender is a relative or close family friend.

Do not blame the child for what happened. Cooperation is not he same as consent. A child doesn’t have the mental capacity to consent to sexual interactions. Fear can keep a child from telling someone for a long time.

Keep the lines of communication open. Encourage your children to ask questions and talk about problems.

Sometimes, good touches, like hugs, can feel bad. If someone wants to touch you in a way you don’t like, scream NO!

Some adults don’t know they shouldn’t touch children on their private parts.

Adults that touch children on their private parts need help. Not all adults touch children in a bad way.

If someone touches you in a way you don’t like, don’t be afraid to tell someone. The person you tell can stop the bad touches from happening. If that person doesn’t listen to you, tell another person until someone listens to you.

Contact our Friends of the Family program at the Rape Crisis Center, Brazos Valley in Bryan, Texas
or a rape crisis center near you for support services for you and your child.

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